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Lost interest in sex how to get it back


Loss of sexual desire is less common in men than it is in women. But for those men who do have low libido it often bothers them more than it does women.

As with many human traits, sex drive varies widely. And even within successful committed relationships, there are times when there is a mismatch in interest between partners. The assessment of low sex drive is not based solely on frequency of sexual intimacy but on how the individual feels about it both before and after. If over a period of weeks or months a man does not look forward to and fantasize about sex with his partner, if the act does not foster feelings of closeness and intimacy and, most important, if either he or his partner is unhappy about his lack of interest, it is time to recognize and address the problem before it does serious damage to the relationship.

The first step toward a solution is to identify the cause of the problem for a given individual. Watter recommends these approaches.

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A wide range of medical conditions and medications can adversely affect libido. Any serious illness is likely to reduce interest in sex and conditions such as diabetes, heart disease and hypertension can reduce blood flow throughout the body, impeding arousal.

Disorders of the thyroid and pituitary glands, which control hormone production, can also diminish libido.

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The drugs known as SSRIs, commonly prescribed for depression, affect sex drive as do some tranquilizers and blood pressure medications. Excessive use of alcohol and illicit drugs also dampen interest. Testosterone is the hormone most closely linked to libido and low testosterone levels usually correlate to diminished sexual desire. Testosterone levels drop with age and some young men have low testosterone as well. Watter is wary of widespread use of testosterone replacement.

Problems in the bedroom may or may not be indicative of larger problems in the relationship. Men with loss of libido have no erectile difficulty once aroused but their interest is diminished. However, experiencing repeated instances of ED can cause anxiety that may cause a man to shut down Lost interest in sex how to get it back libido to avoid the problem. However, many times the psychological causes of ED will need to be addressed in addition to adding medication.

Sometimes the best solution is to seek professional help.

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